Benefits of basketball to our physical and mental health

basketball-womenWhat it is possible to call the real plague of our time? AIDS – no, the diseases connected with a thyroid gland – too is not present, and here obesity – easily can be designated such term. After all, today nearly a half of people around the world suffers from this illness.

What became it the reason? Perhaps, bad ecology, perhaps, that today we have many various stresses, and thus we also very often eat absolutely unhealthy food. Today after all institutions which give opportunity of fast and very high-calorific food are very popular.

Nutritionists of the whole world sound alarm, after all especially quickly and actively children therefore to everything, both children, and adults doctors recommend to play sports gain excess weight and to watch that you and your children eat.

Basketball is an excellent way to lose excess weight, so, a way to feel much better.

Basketball offers balanced workout loads

What is important at a sport choice for weight loss? First of all, it is uniform loads of all systems of our organism. Basketball – such sport, after all it includes run, jumps and exercises with a ball. Therefore, he trains both endurance, and good coordination, and also simply helps to lose excess weight to the child or the adult, keep in mind that picking the right basketball for your workout is essential as the size varies for different ages and genders and no matter if you going to use it on the court or individual training.

Besides, children who are engaged in basketball, especially boys, are quickly extended in growth and become high and harmonous.

Basketball will help to tear off the child from the computer

The second problem of our time on an equal basis with excess weight is a computer dependence, and very brightly she is visible at children who play computer games.

Why they spend a lot of time in virtual space? It is possible because cannot find to themselves interesting occupation in the real world. Basketball can quite become such, it is interesting game which possesses competitive character. After all where it is better that your child told how he won team of the rival in basketball than as killed the next monster in game.

Basketball for adults

Excess weight and computer dependence – to these two problems are subject not only children. Adults, too quite often forget about the real world, and start gaining excess weight very quickly. Basketball is an excellent decision for such cases. It is possible to play it with friends after work or during week-end, receiving an excellent charge of cheerfulness and forces.

Dealing with Disappointment

It happened. For the first time in his short 12 years of life L learned what is was like to be disappointed by someone other than his family. T and I have been disappointing him his whole life. NO is a common word at our house, which leads to disappointment.

But today I received a text from L. He is now going into 7th grade, which means he auditioned for the Middle School band director and today he found out what band he made.

I was heartbroken for him. I mean he used a sad face emoticon! But after letting him know I was just as bummed as him I reminded him that there is always a positive. There is always next year. I found a wonderful article written by Roni Conen Sandler, PhD. on Coping with Disappointment. The main takeaway I found from the article was with disappointment comes a healing process.

The Healing Process

Since disappointments are inevitable life experiences, it is important for kids to know how to cope well. What does that mean? Well, first to allow themselves to have genuine emotional reactions, which often tell them important information about themselves and their goals. Then they must get up, brush themselves off, and go on to their next endeavor. Throughout this process, young people can develop resiliency and adaptability. Here are some ways parents can contribute:

  • Empathize with kids’ feelings, whatever they are. That way, they will feel heard, validated, and taken seriously. Focusing on our children’s emotions requires, however, that we can recognize and manage our own. Be sure to express that you’re proud of your children’s efforts. After all, if they never fall short of their goals, kids are probably aiming their sights too low.
  • Provide perspective. Communicate that the situation, however distressing, is not tragic. They will recover from their disappointment and find new opportunities. Besides, no school, premier team, or romantic partner is ideal. If they put their minds to it, they can thrive in many different situations. This is one of the most important lessons we get from disappointments and failures. But your kids will believe this message only when they sense that you are not devastated. Teens take their cues from their parents.
  • Be voices of reason. It is true that decisions sometimes are unfair. Summer jobs or internships may go to those with better connections, kids may be sick on the day of an important audition, or the company they want to hire them may institute a job freeze. But rather than dwelling on unfortunate circumstances or blaming other people for their disappointments, guide kids to focus on what is within their control. Parents can convey that it’s time to regroup: “Okay, so now let’s think about other options…” Over time, this helps teens to broaden their thinking and develop creative problem-solving.

As an adult how you deal with disappointment will also be the way your tween or teen deals with disappointment. It is a learned behavior and they are learning by watching you.

Ugh, really …

Wednesday’s I usually like to have a Wednesday Whisper but that was not in the blogosphere plans. (Or my phones)

All I wanted to do was upload a picture, as I have an app to type my blog. I go to my pictures on my phone and most are gone. They are in the blooming iCloud and I can’t get them out!! Then I hit a button and now all my pictures are GONE!

Plus this has been a day. There are only 2.5 days of school left and yesterday was a doozy.

C had the roughest day of school yet and T and I had to act like parents and have a “talk” after dinner. There were discussions and consequences. Parenting is so hard!

Home Alone

home aloneThe tween/teen age is tricky. They technically are old enough to stay home. I know in Texas (my state) there is actually no law about age and staying home alone. Some states do have laws. Everything I found says regardless of the law remember the maturity level of your kid. Some kids just aren’t ready to stay home alone.

The Today Show is running a series right now called, “My Kid Would Never Do That.” The segment I am highlighting has to do with leaving kids home alone and how they react to someone at the door. As a parent you have told your kids the dont’s of staying home alone: don’t open the door, actually don’t even go close to the door, and especially don’t let the person in.

This segment done by The Today Show is eye opening and frightening and made me realize I haven’t told my kids all the don’ts!

Please watch and keep your kids safe.

Would Your Kid Allow A Stranger Into Your Home

When I Grow Up

Remember when you were a kid and dreamed about life as an adult? The dream usually involved a spouse, a house with a white picket fence, a few animals and so many wonderful kids. Now that reality is here and you are an adult, your real life scenario may not look anything like your perfect dream adult scenario from childhood. I mean come on how many of us actually have white picket fences?

I know I had my 3 kids names all picked out and ready to go, then I found Mr. Right and we didn’t have 3 kids much less even come close to using the perfect names I had so meticulously rolled off my tongue for YEARS!

And wonderful… YEAH RIGHT! Now don’t get me wrong my kids are good, but they are no angels. We all have our moments and when that happens I reflect upon the realization that my imagination was playing tricks on me in my childhood.

Parenting is too complex. There are too many moving parts and pieces. We also aren’t dealing with dream kids either; our kids are human beings that come with their own minds, thoughts and actions. No matter how hard we try and control these things for our kids, they are the ones with the ultimate control.

As a parent that reality is so tough to come to terms with. Especially as our kids continue to get older, wiser (we hope) and start to really understand the world around them. They may not continue to believe your beliefs or act as you want them to. And those individuals, your kids, are the reason your parenting dreams of childhood can’t be parenting realities.


What do all these quotes have in common?

The common theme throughout is TEAMWORK! America is what is known as an individualistic culture. defines individualistic culture this way:

An individualistic culture is a culture in which the members’ primary focus is that of themselves and their immediate families.

In contrast to collectivistic cultures where the members are concerned more with the well being of the group than their own well being.

USA is a highly individualistic culture.

I am giving you this little lesson for one reason and that it to say, us as Americans are TERRIBLE team players! We feel that if what ever is going to be done correctly it is just easier if we just complete the work ourselves. Here is the problem in this thinking.

Life doesn’t work well like that!

Unless you live in a hole with no communication to the outside world you have to a work as a team with someone! EXAMPLES: Family, Work, Grocery Store (that is teamwork people!)

Now how can you help your tween/teen become a good team player? Because remember we are teaching them (not on purpose) to be individualistic, so we also need to be teaching them about teamwork!

The first team they join is YOUR family! The best thing you can do is start them young in making them feel like team players. Give them responsibilities (not only does this ease your load, but they feel as though they are a contributing member of this Special Team. There are many great resources about responsibilities at certain ages. I really like this one at because she too talks about how a family is a team.

Once your children know how a teammate is supposed to act and how when they don’t pull their weight on a certain day, it affects the whole team, they begin to see the world in a less “me-centered” way.

Our kids have to learn how to be good teammates and we are their coaches. We have to let them practice so that when game time comes. They will score a win for whatever team they are on!